This has been a very weird week for me. First of all I acknowledge that I wrote some things on facebook (danger!) that I should have dealt directly with the people involved, and I think came across much more severe than I intended. Were they that bad? I don’t think so but on retrospect and talking to the people involved, they felt their professionalism and dedication to the game had been unfairly criticized. We have all dealt with each other and I think we can go onward with our relationships and our love of Roller Derby. They with virtually no recompense are doing such great work in keeping the game alive and growing.
But then an odd thing happened. Another person who I don’t know that well but met once really laid into me. Of course, when that happens, you want to evaluate yourself and see if there is validity to what is said.
I got the feeling that somehow he felt that I was an interloper using the fact that my father invented the game to try to edge my way into what is going on in today’s Roller Derby and had some ulterior motive which he could not fathom at present. Sounded like he had been following my website but not my blog and that I was a hanger-on (my interpretation) trying for a big score.
And he offers as proof that I am out to sabotage the modern Roller Derby is that I am still friends with Cliff Butler of the NRDA, who I have known for over 40 years, and those at the OSDApro (I have always said I support all Roller Derby), and therefore I am conspiring to bring back and promote the game of 1960. Not a chance! Does everyone now have to cut off from the teams that are skating on the banked track (oh, oh, goodbye RMRG, whom I dearly love). And there are currently leagues that I am trying to advise (for no money).
There is a reason that I have as many friends as I do, and most have nothing to do with Roller Derby. I don’t just write about the game, but post my thoughts and experiences and have fun doing it. I have had a fulfilling life of work and family. I believe I have tried to inform, entertain and more and not just about Roller Derby; mentored when asked, and helped when I could. I have gone to cities to promote the games without any pay or promise of; I am invited to many different cities constantly and am sorry I cannot go to them all; I went to Denver to help promote the Derby Dolls at 1st Bank Arena and also had my first meeting with the RMRG. I also went to Philadelphia at the requests of OSDApro and also met with the Philly Roller Girls. In both cases, I was not paid but received airline tickets. I hope that is not payola.
I love the game as it is, flat track, banked track, and if you have gone to other postings on this blog, you will find 81 that really describe my love of how the game has progressed, but also a great deal about my life and feelings.
Let’s all just be nice; please check with those I have dealt with and see if I have had any nefarious dealings with any of them
Thank God Val Capone (my Derby soul mate) and the Windy City Rollers introduced me to what was going on in today’s Derby 6 years ago. I have been to watch and I hope sometime help the growth. I love legitimate flat track, banked track and the energy displayed by all 773 leagues worldwide (now in Israel and Korea!), my children, my grandchildren, Judi, my other interests and more.
This is far more than I wanted to get into, but it will help settle my feelings. And by the way, sir, you didn’t tell the truth about my age: I am not 70 but will be 79 in June.
I hope this can end here, let us all have peace and serenity (hah!) and get along with our intent of making life better for our fellow humans.
My lesson: If I have issues or feelings to be resolved, I will deal directly with the people involved. And please feel free to contact me to clear up any (mis)conceptions you may have about me.
I am heading off now to the Sonoma Film Festival, which I founded 15 years ago. Tonight they are honoring Susan Sarandon.