The thing I like the most about modern Roller Derby is the people in it.
The fact that they choose to be associated with the game tells a lot about them; whether they want to get in shape, have something of their very own, or for whatever reason, but I just like to be around them. And communicate with them, which is why I have over 8000 as friends or followers on facebook, I guess.
A year or so ago I was at a tournament and as almost always connected with some great people. One was this lovely lady who like all of us was going through that time of life where you really want to get some of life’s issues resolved. So she became a friend and we followed each other on and off.
The last time I heard from her she was overjoyed; she had found the perfect person (she hoped), he was taking her to places she always wanted to go and they got along so well and were doing things together and so forth.
The other day I heard from her again. Her world was shattered…..I don’t know how she found out, but Mister Perfect (a referee, not yet accredited by WFTDA) was seemingly involved with at least 4 or 5 other women, including a long-term girl friend and was apparently stringing them all along.
And my friend is worried about possible STD or other ramifications and is getting medical tests.
I for one do not believe that anyone’s beliefs or morals should be imposed on others, but this is a relationship built on lies….trying to see how many notches you can get on your belt.
You are all people who can decide what you want to do, and hooking up is certainly an option (and I heard it does occur occasionally), but pure deceit that affects another person is not acceptable in my book.
So does she out him, warn others? She has her own life and who has the time and effort for full revenge
What about a Derby facebook page with stories and photos? The danger here is what if someone just wants to punish an ex-boyfriend or girlfriend?
I am unfriending the alleged predator….the least I can do…..
How would you all handle the situation and alert others, or is it any of our business?
All I know is that a friend is very unhappy.