What is a friend?


I had to move the other day, and although to explain it to you would be ridiculous, it turned out to be quite complicated.  It involved heavy duty cleaning, painting, sorting, disposing, and more, all things I am not good at.

But Judi Flowers and Jim Weymouth and Jerry Nicol showed up and with three days of intensive and grueling work, I am in my new location…..not enough of the work was mine.

And these are really friends I love.

So let’s think about friends for a moment.  Facebook has redefined the meaning for many people.  If you don’t even know someone, or are merely an aquaintence, you can be someone’s friend and drop information or trivia or pictures of turtles on each other’s doorstep.

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But I find a very different situation with my 5000 friends.  So many are from the  Roller Derby connection that there is already the true meaning (to me) of friendship, when we first lock into each other.  Many people think of Roller Derby mainly as the game but are not aware of the inclusive world and sister/brotherhood that exists within it.  If you look on facebook at my wordpress breakdown for 2011, I think you (as I was) will be amazed at the continents and countries that are tuned in.

It is the culture, not just the game, that joins us.  If someone is in trouble in Manchester, we all respond.  Look at how Lori Milkeris is recovering from her terrible experience, and how literally tens of thousands of you responded with donations, positive messages, advice and more.  And the effort of Derby to help stop domestic violence was accelerated by her experiences.

And when Pandora thought she was abandoned in Colorado, how PJ Shields and all people who didn’t even know her changed her life to a more positive experience.

And I don’t just mean that everyone has to respond to these extreme situations, but we know we all will.

Derby today is so much more than skating …….it is an absolute positive way of life that the World could learn from.

Happy New Year to my family  (be good, don’t fight……and by the way, we have to get Lori to Rollercon so among other things she can get a wonderful Derby husbitch).